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How do you stop the voices in your head? The one’s that tell you everything is falling apart. The one’s that tell you that now that you have what you want, you’re going to lose it? That you aren’t good enough for what you have now? I honestly thought that I was past this insecurity. I have been working hard on myself and on the inner dialogue I have with myself, yet lately, the only dialogue that has been playing on repeat is the one of old. It keeps telling me that no one will want to spend their life with me, that I am unlovable, that everyone will eventually leave. That is the burden I carry every day. The burden of thinking I’m unworthy and easily discarded. I know that everyone struggles with some sort of insecurity about their worth, we’re all human, but how do other’s change the narrative in their heads? How do they realize that yes, they are worthy, yes they deserve love and happiness? How do they trust what their partner is telling them? I would love to have that kind of confidence. To be able to let go of these voices in my head. I literally see the devil on one shoulder, the angel on the other shoulder analogy from tv. Except in my case, it’s not about doing something wrong, it’s what I tell myself. That inner voice telling me my worth, or lack thereof. I can go several months thinking I have conquered the world (voices) but then they creep back in and I have a hard time fighting them. I know all the things to tell myself, I am a daughter of the King, I am made in His image, I am exactly who He made me to be, but that doesn’t stop the negative voices that are on repeat in my head. The ones that appear to be on a permanent shuffle. Like a cassette tape that is constantly on play, both the A&B side, playing over and over and over again. What’s the secret? How do others overcome this? Is there some secret method that I don’t know about? How do I learn to let go of past hurts that feed into this inner dialogue that my brain has? I have struggled with this my entire life. I don’t recall a time in my life that I have ever felt confident in who I was and what I brought to the table. Whether it be how I looked, where my heart was, or they type of person that I am. I know that I am a wonderful person and I have a good heart. I am kind and generous. I am a wonderful confidant and a great listener. I have tons of life experience that I know helps others on occasion…… but behind all that is the voice that tells me that isn’t enough. That tells me that the way I look doesn’t equal societies version of beautiful. That tells me that I am not enough for someone to want to stay. That tells me that I am meant to walk through life alone, sad. I know it sounds ridiculous; it sounds ridiculous to me when others confess the same thing to me about themselves. Especially when I see how wonderful they are, but I don’t know how to change the dialogue with myself. I am a continuous work in progress, but I would love to turn this narrative off completely. Maybe one day I will believe in myself enough to do just that.