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I’m feeling kind of insecure lately. You know how when things are new and fresh and knowing 100% that someone is definitely into you, but as time goes on and things become “normal” you start to wonder, well at least I do, if that feeling for the other person has changed for you? It’s a stupid feeling and it makes no sense. There is evidence that they definitely want you around, but why does it make me start to become more self-conscious, more insecure? Insecurity pushes people away; it makes them feel like they are doing something wrong. If you deal with insecurity, how do you tame it? How do you tell yourself the positive things only? This has been a struggle my entire life. I always want to look my 100% best, look attractive, wear my best clothes, always with makeup, and the truth is he doesn’t care so why do I? I’m being myself, always, but the insecurity always creeps in. At this point, I’m looking for a partner, not someone for fun. He’s looking for he same. So why am I questioning it? I’ve been this way my entire life. Never feeling good enough, always feeling less than other women I’m around. I see all of their good qualities, thin, beautiful eyes, lips, high cheekbones, perfect hair. Before I met my guy, I had decided to grow my gray out, it is too much to keep dying it. I am now questioning that decision. Will I look like an old lady, will he still find me attractive? The good news is my hair is so long it’s going to take a while. But should I change my mind just because of the insecurity that I have? I have started intermittent fasting to see if I can lose some of my weight. My dr recommended it, so I am eating only between 2pm-8pm and fasting for 18 hours. I’m also allowing myself one cup of coffee a day and a soda if needed, but then only water, all day every day. I got myself a 32 oz mason jar and take it with me everywhere. We did do blood work to check my hormone levels and that could very well be it as well. Guess I’ll find out when the results come back. I guess my question is, for those of you who love yourselves, how do you do it? How do you let go of your insecurities and what other people think, and love yourself completely? I’d love to know your secret. At 45, I feel I should be in that place, but I am so not in that place. I know that I am made in God’s image and he made be beautiful, I just don’t believe it. Slowly working on it one day at a time.